I hear this all the time: “I feel weird cooking only for myself.” And I want to change this, for a couple of reasons. One, I know how fun it is cooking by yourself. Two, our food shouldn’t be dependent on another person’s presence. Three, I want to empower people to do anything they want, by themselves or not- I like to do a lot of things on my own, and it’s freeing to be so independent!
Okay, so maybe you don’t want to travel, go to the beach, go to restaurants, or go to parties alone like I prefer to do. But, when you cook at home, you have so much control over the quality of your food and the way you nourish your mind and body, so this at least should always be an option for us! No matter who’s around.
Even though our culture may make us feel awkward about cooking for ourselves, we can decide to shun society’s judgments, in order to nourish ourselves in the way we best see fit, whether we have a dining companion or not. Why should a single person let the presence or absence of another person, dictate whether they should feel comfortable creating a nourishing, home-cooked meal?
Here are some reasons why you may love to cook for yourself:
1) It’s entirely up to you what you make, no compromises.
Wanna cook up an appetizer recipe and eat that whole thing for dinner? In the mood for something your partner doesn’t really like? It’s all you, baby.
2) No judgments
Worried about what your family or friends will think of your cooking? Not when you’re cooking for yourself. In fact, have fun testing recipes without your family and friends, and then you’ll be prepared for when you do make things for them.
3) Mindful eating and cooking
Fully immerse yourself in the experience of cooking and eating. Smell the spices, enjoy the textures, and feel connected to your body about when you start feeling full. Practice gratitude. This may be harder to do over conversation.
4) No need to coordinate timing
Are you hungry now? How about in 30 minutes? Eat whenever you want.
5) Takeout can be expensive
Are you really going to spend extra money having someone else prepare your food, simply because you feel awkward cooking for yourself?
6) Control over nutrition
You can be more careful about the nutrition content when you are the one preparing the food. You should be able to feel empowered to make yourself nourishing food, no matter the social circumstances.
I think it’s beautiful to always treat yourself right! I love to make elaborate meals for myself. Cooking is one of my greatest hobbies, and I like to see how recipes turn out. You don't have to feel weird about anything you do that is good for you.
You don’t need to wait for another person to wear those clothes, use the fancy china, or eat the food you like. Life is happening right now, so enjoy it now! Don’t wait for someone else in order to make the day a special occasion. Because today is already a special occasion.
Feed yourself like you’d feed a best friend or a loved one. Because hopefully, you are one to yourself. And you’ll be a better friend and loved one when you are deeply nourished and cared for.
I hope my love for cooking for myself will give you permission and empower you to do the same!