I had an interview for a dream job yesterday, but had to speak up because I realized I’d be unhappy.
The interviewer asked, “the person who works here needs to have really thick skin, what do you think about that?”
I said: “You know, I’ve always prided myself on my thick skin, because I do have that. But now I realize that it’s not something to be proud of. Instead, I’m proud that I make sure I spend time in environments around nice people, where I don’t need thick skin.”
This ended up going over pretty well: since it’s an expanding company, I was told that there is a very real possibility that another role will be available there sometime soon, working along with some other people. Maybe it’s important to have thick skin if you are working with clients or patients who aren’t well or don’t know any better, but I don’t think you should have to have a really tough exterior to be around people within your company.
It’s important for me to work around kind people, because we are all in the same boat, working together as a team. I want to be around people who uplift me, and who I can support and collaborate with in a way that makes us all happy. Truly, being kind is basic decency, and it’s neither a high or low standard to expect, in my opinion.
If you have a reputation for being unkind, you are going to miss out on great potential employees who respect themselves enough to stay away from your bad vibes. And I think my interviewer has more respect for me that I set good standards for myself and my workplace.
I know it will lead to a better opportunity.